Green light, the very significant intent in a non-significant conversation.
“Green light” is attributed to qualities of the green on the traffic light. As the green on the traffic light indicates “go” to the driver or pedestrian, so does the green-light in this context indicate a “go ahead” in our social and sexual interaction with people. “It is a tactic in flirting, to give the go-ahead for the other person to ask you out via non-verbal cues” (Shilojean, 2006).
There’s been a lot of controversies and dispute among individuals as a result of miscommunication of intention. I mean, I learnt the hard way that you don’t have to literally tell someone to “go ahead” before they actually “go ahead” or think you want them to. While most guys have successfully gone into a relationship or had sex for accurately reading the traffic light and seeing the green, a lot of guys have been in the wrong for misreading the traffic light. Let’s take a scenario where a guy is flirting with a girl in his own terms, but this innocent girl has zero idea he’s flirting with her, she responds sequentially but in her own terms, she’s just being friendly and nice. This guy will definitely see this as a green light right? This scenario is a perfect example of mis-reading the traffic light or should we seem the guy color blind? Just like the whole world perceive women to be highly complicated, you cannot mostly/always guess a woman’s feelings, emotions or intentions accurately, hence the misconception. Ladies aren’t the only color indicators, guys also have their own form of indicating green, yellow or red light to the other. Despite the not-so-solid fact that girls rarely take the first move requiring a green/red light, quite seldom does a girl mis-read the light indication a guy gives, this could be due to the simplicity they portray in indicating a light or the fact that they seldom reject a girl. Don’t misquote me, I’m not trying to say guys are simple or what-not, they are just quite simple than their female counterpart.
From the comments above, derived from facebook, we can clearly deduce that it’s a norm to have your intentions misunderstood or should I rather say “your traffic-light mis-read”.
Moreover, there’s a general perception that certain guys possess. They believe most/all ladies are generally rude, and in a case where she ever plays nice with you or move with the flow of the chat, that right there is a perceived green light. Which is not totally true and this cause for grave misunderstandings. There are NICE girls that are just being friendly and not flirting, not all girls are mean, rude or sassy. Gone are the days when the world was comfortable with ladies being nice and friendly, now you have to be mean to show you’re “peng”.
For the record, there’s nothing wrong in asking questions for the sake of clarification. Assumptions are not always accurate and just to prevent misunderstanding, it’s wise to ask the other party, questions, as well as seek their consent before “going ahead”, so you don’t start dating each other without being aware or fooling yourself into thinking they’re into you.